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Aspiring novelists, that masochistic breed of nearly-writer, could learn a lot from Scott Hutchins – and not just by enrolling at Stanford, where he. A Working Theory of Love. by Scott Hutchins (Penguin). In , Alan Turing, the British mathematician and artificial-intelligence pioneer. The triangular theory of love holds that love can be understood in terms of three .. evolutionary forces are at work to ensure that parent-child bonding survives.

The premise of that personality flaw isn't so bad, and might even be interesting, but he ends up moving from woman to woman throughout the book, hurting their feelings and ultimately himself.

He constantly struggles with his feelings regarding his dead father, even to the point where he wonders if he ever loved his dad. His relationship with his remaining family members is thin at best.

I have no problems with flawed characters, but Hutchins seemed to write this guy with the assumption that we'd root for him whether we liked him or not.

Working Theory is also dripping with California-ness. That west coast yearning-for-spirituality-yet-rejecting-anything-that-has-come-before saturates the book. The book features sex cults, luddite-like terrorists, and angst-ridden agnosticism, but with the "Hey, man, it's all good.

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Come sit in our drum circle! Everything tries to create meaning and substance, but just rings hollow, which brings me to my final and biggest grievance against this book It was too easy to read. I don't mean that I made quick work of it although I did , but that it never gave me anything to ruminate.

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Everything was clearly explained to the point where it wasn't fun. Every moment of symbolism was decoded. Unrequited love is typical of the period of romanticism , but the term is distinct from any romance that might arise within it.

Divine or spiritual romance may include, but is not limited to these following types: realistic, as well as plausible unrealistic, optimistic as well as pessimistic depending upon the particular beliefs held by each person within the relationship. Some of these theories are presented in Plato 's Symposium.

Six Athenian friends, including Socrates, drink wine and each give a speech praising the deity Eros. When his turn comes, Aristophanes says in his mythical speech that sexual partners seek each other because they are descended from beings with spherical torsos, two sets of human limbs, genitalia on each side, and two faces back to back.

Their three forms included the three permutations of pairs of gender i. In the final speech before Alcibiades arrives, Socrates gives his encomium of love and desire as a lack of being, namely, the being or form of beauty. For most of the 20th century, Freud's theory of the family drama dominated theories of romance and sexual relationships.

This gave rise to a few counter-theories. Girard, in any case, downplays romance's individuality in favor of jealousy and the love triangle , arguing that romantic attraction arises primarily in the observed attraction between two others.

A natural objection is that this is circular reasoning , but Girard means that a small measure of attraction reaches a critical point insofar as it is caught up in mimesis. This view has to some extent supplanted its predecessor, Freudian Oedipal theory.

It may find some spurious support in the supposed attraction of women to aggressive men. As a technique of attraction, often combined with irony, it is sometimes advised that one feign toughness and disinterest, but it can be a trivial or crude idea to promulgate to men, and it is not given with much understanding of mimetic desire in mind. Instead, cultivating a spirit of self-sacrifice, coupled with an attitude of appreciation or contemplation, directed towards the other of one's attractions, constitutes the ideals of what we consider to be true romantic love.

Mimesis is always the desire to possess, in renouncing it we offer ourselves as a sacrificial gift to the other.

Though the centrality of rivalry is not itself a cynical view, it does emphasize the mechanical in love relations. In that sense, it does resonate with capitalism and cynicism native to post-modernity.

Romance in this context leans more on fashion and irony, though these were important for it in less emancipated times. Sexual revolutions have brought change to these areas. Wit or irony therefore encompass an instability of romance that is not entirely new but has a more central social role, fine-tuned to certain modern peculiarities and subversion originating in various social revolutions, culminating mostly in the s.

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July Learn how and when to remove this template message Later modern philosophers such as La Rochefoucauld , David Hume and Jean-Jacques Rousseau also focused on morality , but desire was central to French thought and Hume himself tended to adopt a French worldview and temperament. Desire in this milieu meant a very general idea termed "the passions", and this general interest was distinct from the contemporary idea of "passionate" now equated with "romantic".

Love was a central topic again in the subsequent movement of Romanticism , which focused on such things as absorption in nature and the absolute , as well as platonic and unrequited love in German philosophy and literature.

French philosopher Gilles Deleuze linked this concept of love as a lack mainly to Sigmund Freud , and Deleuze often criticized it. In Shakespeare's Measure for Measure , for example, " The two at the end of the play love each other as they love virtue. He concluded on six rules, including: Do not flirt with someone unless you might mean it. Do not pursue people who you are not interested in, or who are not interested in you.

In general, express your affection or uncertainty clearly, unless there is a special reason not to. The specific problem is: Very awkward prose. No indication why the cited authors are significant.

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September Learn how and when to remove this template message Many theorists attempt to analyze the process of romantic love. Norepinephrine and dopamine , among other brain chemicals, are responsible for excitement and bliss in humans as well as non-human animals. Fisher concludes that these reactions have a genetic basis, and therefore love is a natural drive as powerful as hunger.

In his book What Women Want, What Men Want, [24] anthropologist John Townsend takes the genetic basis of love one step further by identifying how the sexes are different in their predispositions.

Townsend's compilation of various research projects concludes that men are susceptible to youth and beauty, whereas women are susceptible to status and security. These differences are part of a natural selection process where males seek many healthy women of childbearing age to mother offspring, and women seek men who are willing and able to take care of them and their children.

Psychologist Karen Horney in her article "The Problem of the Monogamous Ideal", [25] indicates that the overestimation of love leads to disillusionment; the desire to possess the partner results in the partner wanting to escape; and the friction against sex result in non-fulfillment. Disillusionment plus the desire to escape plus non-fulfillment result in a secret hostility, which causes the other partner to feel alienated.

Secret hostility in one and secret alienation in the other cause the partners to secretly hate each other.

Love Three: Commitment If two people remain in passion for long enough, and there is a long-term compatibility where they can continue to share new life experiences together indefinitely, then commitment will arise.

Commitment is an unbelievably powerful feeling and occurs rarely in life. Couples that are in Love Two and not Love Three will often feel great until something happens: he loses his job, she has a miscarriage, he starts drinking, etc. Scientists have actually shown that for couples who reach that level of commitment, their senses of self actually merge with the other person.

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Commitment arises with the idea that the relationship will persist indefinitely. The only way it can end is if one or both parties of a relationship change individually to the point where it becomes harmful for the other person to self-identify with their partner: again, think of the husband who becomes an alcoholic, or the wife who keeps cheating, etc.

Sometimes even then, the power of commitment holds on, depending on the people. Passion and Lust can disappear well after Commitment arises without affecting the Commitment. Lust is needed for passion, but passion can exist later without it. Passion must exist for commitment, but later on, commitment can exist without it.

There are timetables for each love, although these are very arbitrary and will vary widely from person to person and couple to couple. Passion takes anywhere from a few days to a few weeks to emerge, and usually sticks around for months. In highly compatible couples, it will persevere but still require effort and constant communication to maintain beyond a couple years.He mopes pretty much through the whole book, and his feeling sorry for himself doesn't end until after the mandatory tiny epiphany.

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And the new girl in his life -- younger and sporting some strange hobbies -- while a bit of a wounded bird seems pretty regular overall. It was too easy to read.

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Amid this psychological turmoil, Neill meets Rachel. She young, lost like him , and impressionable.

The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P. I liked the sound of the plot, and liked even more the praise it was given by the reviewers. Fisher concludes that these reactions have a genetic basis, and therefore love is a natural drive as powerful as hunger.

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